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Pockets

Werewolf
pockets








Since: 10-20-04

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Posted on 09-13-05 12:37 PM Link
What do you do when it's all completely 100% fallen apart? When the one person you thought cared enough to wait for you to figure out all your pain and fear won't let you and instead forces you to pull away semi-permanently.

Until they decideit's either be in a relationship or it's completely permanent.

What do I do now that she won't let me heal so I can love her?
Nataku Sherineui

Blue Octorok








Since: 08-18-04
From: Orlando, FL (USA)

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Posted on 09-13-05 01:48 PM Link
this may sound a but abbrupt, and it may sound harsh... but through what i've experienced and what i'm going through now i think that you should forget about her. if she won't let you get through what you need to and she's rushing you through life, maybe she doesn't really love you. if i were you, i'd tell her you just wanted to be friends while you streighten things out and then maybe you could have a relationship again. but before you do anything, talk to her. see if she'll listen, if she doesn't want to listen, it's not worth the time or the heartache to stay with her. that's just MY opinion, don't regard it if you don't want to, i'm only trying to help.
renewed_soul_rocker

Merchant








Since: 09-07-05

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Posted on 09-13-05 02:33 PM Link
i think that her girl should be trying to consoul you not trying to rush you into getting over your pain. i would tell her that i'm just not ready to forget the past and that you should be trying to be a little more understanding to my feelings.
Evo

Red Super Koopa
Watching you fall brings joy to my heart....








Since: 08-16-04
From: Oregon

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Posted on 09-13-05 02:40 PM Link
Hmm... now, is she forcing YOU to make a decision as to wether you two shall stay together, or is she just pulling away?

Either way, talking is the best thing. Explain your situation. If she's wanting you to make the dicision, explain that you really do care for her, but you really need some time because *insert reason here*.

Chicks dig it if you come out and say what you're feeling, plus it makes it a lot easier for everyone involved.

Good luck.
Pockets

Werewolf
pockets








Since: 10-20-04

Since last post: 4852 days
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Posted on 09-13-05 06:12 PM Link
She hurt me. More pain than I've ever been in in my entire life or imagined was actually possible. I still love her though. She hurt me more than anything or anyone else ever has but I still want to be with her.

I CAN'T though when I'm still so hurt and can't trust her because of what she did to me. I need time to get over that so I pulled away, not for permanent though. Until she basically said either I agree to be her boyfriend again or it IS permanent.

So it's over. And I don't know what to do now.
Evo

Red Super Koopa
Watching you fall brings joy to my heart....








Since: 08-16-04
From: Oregon

Since last post: 5870 days
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Posted on 09-14-05 12:05 AM Link
*hugs* Is there any chance of talking to her about it? I mean, if she did something obvious to hurt you like cheat on you, then it should be pretty easy to get her to listen to what you need in return from her. Have you tried telling her that she hurt you badly, and you still love her and probably still want to be with her, but you need some space without her putting pressure on you?

If she can't listen, if she won't wait for you, then I'm sorry to say it, Pockets, but she's really not worth waiting for. She needs to be able to understand where you're coming from and listen to your views. If she's not willing to do that *outside* the relationship, chances are it's not the best relationship to be in.

If that's the case, then I'm really sorry it turned out like that for you, but that's just the way things are, and even though it'll hurt you A LOT, it'll be better in the long run.
Elara

Divine Mamkute
Dark Elf Goddess
Chaos Imp
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Ms. Invisable








Since: 08-15-04
From: Ferelden

Since last post: 73 days
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Posted on 09-14-05 12:34 AM Link
You know my feelings and opinions on this Pockets. I'm not going to say it all here since I've said it in person... but you know what I will say and why. You're better off without someone like, because you know that it won't change.

And also, if she is forcing you to choose, then that just seals it. If you love someone, you don't force them to do anything! I'm not forcing a certain someone to choose, I told him that he needs to figure out what he wants and I said it in a non-demanding way.

Oye... there is so much I want to say, but it's better not said here.
Pockets

Werewolf
pockets








Since: 10-20-04

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Posted on 09-14-05 03:23 AM Link
Originally posted by Evo
*hugs* Is there any chance of talking to her about it? I mean, if she did something obvious to hurt you like cheat on you, then it should be pretty easy to get her to listen to what you need in return from her. Have you tried telling her that she hurt you badly, and you still love her and probably still want to be with her, but you need some space without her putting pressure on you?

If she can't listen, if she won't wait for you, then I'm sorry to say it, Pockets, but she's really not worth waiting for. She needs to be able to understand where you're coming from and listen to your views. If she's not willing to do that *outside* the relationship, chances are it's not the best relationship to be in.

If that's the case, then I'm really sorry it turned out like that for you, but that's just the way things are, and even though it'll hurt you A LOT, it'll be better in the long run.


Actually Evo that is exactl what she did to hurt me, among other things. And I've done everything you said and she still won't let me deal with things in my own way. It hurts so much though.

I'm fine though. I'm probably lieing there but I guess eventually I WILL be fine. Don't know how long that'll take.
Elara

Divine Mamkute
Dark Elf Goddess
Chaos Imp
Penguins Fan

Ms. Invisable








Since: 08-15-04
From: Ferelden

Since last post: 73 days
Last activity: 73 days
Posted on 09-14-05 03:55 AM Link
*uber huggles*

Just know that we are here for you if you need us, especially the "LBCC freaks + 1". You will be fine, we all will one day. I just hope you get there before me.
Evo

Red Super Koopa
Watching you fall brings joy to my heart....








Since: 08-16-04
From: Oregon

Since last post: 5870 days
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Posted on 09-14-05 06:20 PM Link
*hugs as well* I'm sorry, Pockets. I know it really hurts. I don't know what kind of pain you're going through, but I know it's never easy.

Unfortunatly... I think... I would let go. Elara said it... if she's forcing you, she doesn't love you, and you're probably better off.

*hugs* I really don't know what else to say. I'm sorry this happened to you, as I know you're a good guy. Sometimes the worst things happen to the best people.
Pockets

Werewolf
pockets








Since: 10-20-04

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Posted on 09-15-05 03:41 AM Link
well ok I think I'll just kill myself and be done with it. *sigh* I hate this. I love her. I really do. And she seems to delight in causing me as much pain as possible. Well that's it and I know she's going to see this at some point.

This is it. It's over. Don't call me, don't email me, don't send me any IM's or text messages. If you see me don't talk to me. I'm just going to suffer with this pain for however long it takes me to move on.

But make NO mistake. I will always love you, and I will be hurting for the rest of my life. I'm going to delete any emails you send and I'm never going to answer a phone call from you or any of your friends ever again. I'm done letting you hurt me just because you won't give me the time I need. You never loved me you cheating bitch.

Don't worry guys. I'm not actually going to kill myself. I'm not that weak of a person.
Elara

Divine Mamkute
Dark Elf Goddess
Chaos Imp
Penguins Fan

Ms. Invisable








Since: 08-15-04
From: Ferelden

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Posted on 09-17-05 03:08 AM Link
You better not, or I will bring you back from the dead and kick your ass if you do.

Would you like me to close this for you?

*huggles* You know my number if you need to talk.
Pockets

Werewolf
pockets








Since: 10-20-04

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Posted on 09-17-05 01:50 PM Link
yeah go ahead and close it.

Thanks guys.
Elara

Divine Mamkute
Dark Elf Goddess
Chaos Imp
Penguins Fan

Ms. Invisable








Since: 08-15-04
From: Ferelden

Since last post: 73 days
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Posted on 09-17-05 03:04 PM Link
Anytime, my dear gargoyle.

*closes*
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