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Elara

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Since: 08-15-04
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Posted on 12-21-11 07:52 PM, in New American Civil War Possible (NDAA-2012) Link
I heard somewhere they it wasn't vetoed, but I have yet to verify that. I really hope that it was, because if this thing goes through... well... let's just say that all I need is a few natural disasters next year and my novel Darkfang will have become reality.
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Since: 08-15-04
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Posted on 12-22-11 02:56 AM, in My grandma died Link
My paternal grandmother died last night from a combination of copd and emphysema. She was the grandparent that I was closest to, and I feel rather odd... to be cliche, it is like there is a hole now. We knew it was coming, and I know that it is good because she is no longer in pain... but I still feel a tightness in my chest and the urge to cry alternating with a profound feeling of... emptiness. I have been having trouble keeping food down, as normal when my nerves are this shot... previously only really bad breakups got that reaction.

There is so much that I want to say, but I have no idea how or to whom. I was so young when my other grandma died, and I only saw her a few times... but this one was a fixture in my life and I am taking it much harder as a result.

My dad said he might fly me out for the funeral but we don't know yet. Ben said he would come as well if I wanted him to, which I appreciate. I really wish that more of my friends were around right now... I could do with the distraction.
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Posted on 12-22-11 03:43 AM, in The Hobbit (It's finally here!) Link
Words cannot express how much this made me squeal with joy.
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Posted on 12-22-11 06:13 AM, in My grandma died Link
I would enjoy that. Ben and I were talking about using the opportunity to visit with people so to not make the entire trip a somber occasion.
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Posted on 12-24-11 12:50 AM, in New crazy Google thing Link
It made me so happy! I loved drawing on frosted glass as a kid.
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Posted on 12-24-11 12:39 PM, in Sorcha!! Link
Happy birthday! I hope you are having fun today, whatever it is you have planned... I saw Bitmap is sending you a stripper *wink*
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Posted on 12-24-11 11:44 PM, in Sorcha!! Link
That gif is making my head hurt, but it's funny.
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Posted on 12-24-11 11:59 PM, in The Hobbit (It's finally here!) Link
I know I've posted that video somewhere else.

Nightfall in Middle Earth was my intro album to Blind Guardian... and still the only physical album I have.
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Posted on 12-25-11 12:06 AM, in I got bored... Link
Very neat... I don't think I even know how do do something like that.
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Posted on 12-25-11 09:04 PM, in My grandma died Link
So we got here safely and it is so surreal being back. It is super warm to me and the dryness is making me cough. I am so looking forward to seeing people though! Downside is that my being kinda sick reduced the effectiveness of the sudafed I took to keep my ears from going nuts on the plane. Gods it hurt! But at least I can hear.
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Posted on 12-27-11 01:41 PM, in My grandma died Link
Looks like it. Ben created a facebook event thingy for Rockbottom to get a better idea of who all is coming and I added your names to it. Rosy said Pat might be in town? That would be neat.

We are going to the zoo today with his dad since he has free passes... Ben just woke up so we should be on the way soon. I've confirmed that I hate driving my dad's Saturn Ion... such a stupid car!

I've been asked to say a few words at the funeral... I have to think about that today and just what I want to say. Kinda nervous to tell the truth.
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Posted on 12-28-11 03:30 PM, in My grandma died Link
Sitting in the funeral parlor right now and nerves are setting in again. When we first got here I couldn't go into the room. I still can't be near the casket for too long or my composure cracks.
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Posted on 12-30-11 02:57 AM, in A Small Death but real important to the family Link
Aww, poor kitty! At least she had a nice long life with you all, right? I mean, fifteen years is a good run for a cat... or any pet really.

Maine Coon would be awesome, by the way... such a pretty breed.
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Posted on 01-01-12 01:57 PM, in Happy New Year Link
I spent most of yesterday on planes or in airports. Once we got home we watched some old home movies that Ben got from his sister and then watched the ball drop, drank some cider, and passed out for a good 12+ hours.

What the hell is Dick Clark still doing on television? You can barely understand him! I haven't watched the show in a few years so I haven't seen him since the stroke, but wow... just wow.
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Posted on 01-01-12 01:59 PM, in A Small Death but real important to the family Link
Ah, yeah I can understand that. I suppose that will happen with any new cat... but as long as the one they get is friendly, I am sure it won't give you too much trouble getting to know you.
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Posted on 01-02-12 04:05 PM, in The Dear Vulkar letters Link
New Year, new letter
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Hey everyone!

Ah, the aftermath of Christmas. The excitement goes down as preparations for the new year begin. Preparations meaning not a whole lot except for maybe buying black beans for new years day, and maybe thinking about doing something New Years Eve.

Life here on the mission has been really good. Elder Rakuita and I have been working hard and having a lot of fun recently, so things are good.

We recently started teaching a literacy class through the library here. We were put into the citizenship program, where we help people prepare for the citizenship test they'll be taking. Honestly, it really is remarkable, as a teacher, to see how much students improve during that class. Students who at first couldn't read a letter, have been coming up to me and reading a whole lot no problem. Honestly, I'm not sure if they understand any of what they read, but there's still a lot of progression going on, and there's other classes that help a lot more with their comprehension.

The best part of the class, though, is my companion teaching. See, he's from Fiji, thus not a citizen, and he gets to teach our class of east indians about America. Craziness.

We've also been able to help out a lot of people recently. There's a lady, Gladys Herron, who has a very difficult life. Her children have been trying to take all of her money, and she's been left in a care home, without them ever coming to see her or help her out. No good, but we've been going over to see her fairly often, as have a lot of members of the church.

I've also finally gotten used to the whole District Leader thing. It was a bit of a rough start, really, with interesting elders around me, but I really feel as though I've learned a lot being in this leadership position, and have really enjoyed being able to help out the other members of my district. It's been good, and I'm really glad I've had this opportunity.

This week, Elder Rakuita and I are really planning on doing a ton of good work. Not that we don't do good work on other weeks, but it's looking fairly likely that I'll be getting transferred to Orland, which is right next to Chico, and we really want to end our time together strong. It's been fun here in Yuba, kind of an interesting four months, but it's been good, and I want to end it strong.

So that's Elder Tigges and his missionary life!

Love,
Elder Tigges
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Posted on 01-05-12 07:00 PM, in Biological Mom Kept From Child in Lesbian Legal Case Link
SOURCE

Biological Mom Kept From Child in Lesbian Legal Case
By SUSAN DONALDSON JAMES | ABC News – Wed, Jan 4, 2012

Tina's biological daughter turned 8 this week, but she has not seen the girl since Dec. 22, 2008, because of a custody fight with her former lesbian partner. The partner is unrelated to the child, but gave birth to her.

"I thought I'd have her back on her birthday," said Tina, a law enforcement officer, whose name was never on the birth certificate and who has been denied parenting rights under Florida state law.

For 11 years, the Brevard County couple forged a committed relationship, living together, sharing their finances and raising a daughter. Tina's egg was fertilized with donor sperm and implanted in her partner's womb.

But when their romance fell apart when the child was 2, the Florida courts had to decide, who is the legal parent, the biological mother or the birth mother who carried the unrelated child for nine months in her womb?

A trial court summarily sided with Tina's ex-partner, citing Florida statute. "The judge said, 'It breaks my heart, but this is the law,'" according to the birth mother's lawyer, Robert J. Wheelock of Orlando.

But on Dec. 23, a state appeals court rejected the law as antiquated and recognized both women as legal parents.

Citing the case as "unique," the 5th District Court of Appeal ruled that both the U.S. and Florida constitutions trump Florida's law, according to the Orlando Sentinel, which first reported the story.

"I am elated and I am thankful," said Tina, now 41. "I am hoping things will run smoothly from this [point] forward, but it may not be the case. She is appealing and trying to keep me away from my daughter."

Court papers identify both women only by their initials. ABCNews.com is withholding Tina's last name to protect her privacy.

Wheeler has asked for a stay of Tina's rights and said the case will surely go to the Florida Supreme Court and, he hopes, all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court.

"I made a decision to have a child and raise her, not so someone else could keep her away from me," said Tina. "I want to see her grow and be a part of her life. The longer time passes the more I am missing out."

Wheelock would give no personal details about the birth mother, including where she is living with the child. He said she could not be available to talk to ABCNews.com on "such short notice."

The case, he said, is an important one.

"Anything to do with gay rights is a big deal," said Wheelock. "It will probably raise the level of conversation significantly for the next few years."

But he said the case, which has lingered for two years, will take time. "Nothing is that quick or easy," he said.

"The real person who is being affected is the kid, who has had a very stable life for a long time and now it's thrown in the mix here, a pawn in some grander scheme," said Wheelock. "There is a human side to this."

The plight of both women and their young daughter highlights the murky laws that surround same-sex families, particularly in states like Florida that do not recognize gay marriage. The state only legalized second-parent adoption last year, too late for Tina.

"I was told to see a counselor and I should have gone to a lawyer to get surrogacy paperwork so that didn't give her all the rights when she shares no biology with her," she said.

The Brevard County couple, who worked on the same police force, lived as a married couple, according to Tina's lawyer, Robert A. Segal of Melbourne.

"They couldn't solemnize the relationship, but they had been living together, owned property together, shared bank accounts and income," he said. "They held themselves up to the world as a committed couple."

"It's a moral, ethical and legal issue," said Segal. "The court sees it as a clear intent on the part of these parties to very deliberately bring a child into the world and to raise her together."

Gay advocacy groups hailed the appellate decision giving both mothers parenting rights, but warned that because many states do not recognize same-sex relationships, children are often the victims.

"Certainly a mother, like most parents, would go to the ends of the earth not to lose her relationship with the child," said Beth Littrell, an attorney in the southern regional office of LAMBDA Legal.

The law provides no distinction between biological and birth mother and has "not caught up with science or the state of same-sex marriages," ruled the appellate court.

"It's heartbreaking when they have no recourse," Littrell said. "And all kinds of harm can be created for the child with these ambiguous laws."

When Tina and her partner decided to have a child, the birth mother was 39 and infertile. Her egg was harvested and fertilized with by sperm from an anonymous donor, who relinquished his rights to the child.

When the child was born in 2004, the women hyphenated their names as the child's last name.

"They did everything that a very happy family does, but the relationship broke down," said Segal.

Lesbian Couple Were at First Amicable

Tina's lawyer said that the birth mother had turned "mean" after an amicable separation. "It happens a lot in divorcing couples," said Segal.

He said his client had been painted as a "donor mother," which was far from the truth.

"That is not a term that has legal sense to it," Segal said. "She was not giving [her eggs] with no strings attached and relinquishing rights. That wasn't happening here. She intended to be part of the child's life."

At first, the biological mother paid child support to her ex-partner and the couple worked out a time-share arrangement with their daughter, who had moved with her birth mother back with family in North Carolina.

But at some point, the birth mother decided to go to Australia for an educational law enforcement program, taking the child with her and not telling her ex-partner.

"Letters were returned by the birth mother's mother and she got tight-lipped," said Segal. "We started piecing things together and bringing in an investigator from Australia."

Tina and her lawyer filed a petition at the trial level asking to be declared a legal mother with parental rights. She also challenged the constitutionality of Florida law.

"The bottom line was, we wanted her to be a legal parent and given enforceable legal rights," said Segal.

The appeals court sent the case back to circuit court to determine visitation, custody and child support arrangement with an emphasis on the well-being of their daughter.

Two other similar court cases in New York City and California are also raising national attention.

"It does appear to be a trend where courts are looking at the intention of the parties to decide who the legal parents are, and that has applications for [couples] who plan to have a child and create that child through artificial insemination and to raise that child, even if the relationship goes awry," said LAMBDA Legal's Littrell.

"It was a great decision for this family and for each of the parents with the child at the center of the controversy," she said. "The language and the reasoning the court employed bode well for same-sex couples across the board."

As for Tina, she is now living with a new partner and has another child and one on the way. She said her legal fight has been expensive, but "all worth it if I can get her back."

"Shame on me," said Tina that she didn't understand the legal complexities that would be involved. "I did not know that I would not be on the birth certificate, that I would not have any legal right to my biological child."
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I am in favor of the new ruling, since they should have had her name on the birth certificate from the beginning. Hopefully this will help many other gay couples in the future, since as the article says, this is becoming a growing legal concern.


(Last edited by Elara on 01-05-12 07:02 PM)
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Posted on 01-05-12 07:47 PM, in Biological Mom Kept From Child in Lesbian Legal Case Link
I think that they have equal right, and should share custody... though I realize that is harder now since the birth mother is in another country... but to just up and leave, and cut Tina out like that... that is fucking cruel.
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Posted on 01-06-12 04:25 PM, in Motherfucking Goddamn SHIT!!! Link
I just hung my head when you said the license plate was from Paramount on Facebook... fucking hell.

But yeah, I really am kinda speechless about a pregnant woman ransacking an old lady's house. That is such bullshit!
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Posted on 01-07-12 06:35 AM, in And the baby's name is? Link
Aww, a xeobaby!

Interesting name... how did ya come up with it?
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