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AlpoRaggins Troubadour Not so much dead.         Since: 12-11-04 From: Someday, Somewhere, Over the Rainbow Since last post: 6613 days Last activity: 6502 days |
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| I have friends. I have loyal friends, I have friends I'd like to spend more time with, I have friends who I connect with really well. But, I have one friend... this friend, though they say they are "loyal" and glorify the fact that I'm there friend at all possible times (I'll explain that bullshit later), I can sense that they have some sort of venomous hatred towards me and everything that I am. This friend "loves spending time with me", but I can tell they use these "hanging out times" to make me look stupid at every given chance, they one up me at every possible moment. They also feel as if we have some sort of connection, as if we were bred to be friends.
I CANNOT STAND THEM. (BTW: "They" as I have been, and will continue to refer to will go unnamed. Why I feel I need to do this, I don't know, as the only person on here who would know them is HoboConductor, who is one of those loyal friends who I know I can trust) I have found the source of this problem. I never wanted to be friends with them, I never asked, I never made any initiative, I was lumped into a group with them at the end of 8th grade, and am STILL forced within their group in 10th grade. Thats right! I NEVER WANTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH THEM! I was guilt tripped into hanging out with them because one of my other friends (who actually ended up being one of my much better friends now despite his whole involvement in this) was the only guy in the group and felt uncomfortable being around a bunch of girls all summer. One of the people in the group decided they liked me, and we went out for about 3 weeks, until she was diagnosed with schizophrenia and decided it'd be cool not to like anyone for the next two years. That should've been the first sign that there was certainly something fucked up with the group. Over the 2 years, I've spoken maybe under 10 times to a few of the others in the group despite the fact that they hang out with us whenever we do anything. They are all so goddamn boring. Thats another thing! If we do anything they fuck all the plans up! If I tell them "Lets go to the park and relax!" they're like "No we need an extensive schedule of our day, we need to bring along a lot of stuff to carry such as three blankets and six board games because even when we're outside we need these sort of things!" They can't be the least bit spontaneous, and me being considerably moreso than them makes anything we do boring for me. But... while over time those people have become tolerable, there is that one that I said in the beginning that is just too obnoxious to handle. They are very smart, yes. But if you say one thing wrong they tend to correct your mistakes for you... extensivly. It makes them look pretentious and... well, like a bitch. They CANNOT take jokes anymore, they make things so serious. I have spoken with them on many occasions about what type of people we want to be. They stated they wanted to be a "lovable eccentric". Too bad that is something that you grow with, you can't fabricate out of thin air, and at the point they are at, they are the farthest thing from eccentric I know. They believe themself to be an artist; they write poetry, attempt to draw, write stories, paint, play piano, all that. Now, any other person I would say "Oh good job! I'm glad to see someone doing so!" but with this person? I DID say so before they got out of hand. They're pretentious, they've got a big head. They love showing off things to people, they love getting critiqued, but if its a bad critique they get either a) defensive, or b) very pouty. Yes, and thats another thing, if you stray from this person's every so meticulously planned schedule, they get very angry at you; if you do anything different, or speak your mind about something, they get VERY defensive and use everything in their aresenal against you to make you feel bad. "Lovable eccentric" my ass... GodDAMN I know there is more to rant about but I'm just so sick and tired about thinking about this that its driving me to the point of exhaustion. I can't tell anyone else about it either, because they all don't realize that they're allowed to think like this! They think something terrible will happen if they tell the person they dislike them. And because of that, I feel the same way. I can't tell them that I hate them; it'll effect too many relationships with friends of mine that are actually good. So I don't know what to do! I don't want to live two more years of highschool, having fake relationships with people. I can understand if my elaborations on anything were not clear, I wrote this in a flurry of hatred. (Last edited by Bluebeard on 06-04-06 06:55 PM) |
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Cairoi This isn't about you and your loud mouth, This is about me and my fucking beard. Since: 08-29-04 From: PA Since last post: 4848 days Last activity: 4472 days |
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Originally posted by Bluebeard Then don't. Simply put, confont this person you so hate and find out if you're assumptions are correct. It's time you stuck up for yourself. If this person thinks they can slaverize you into a false friendship, don't put up with anymore.  Go for it! |
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Elara Divine Mamkute Dark Elf Goddess Chaos Imp Penguins Fan Ms. Invisable  Since: 08-15-04 From: Ferelden Since last post: 100 days Last activity: 100 days |
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| Just don't hang out with them, say you are busy... or (since I percieve that they are mostly girls), say that it's a guy's day when you hang out with your guy friends so they can't come along. If all else fails, swallow your feelings and tell them the truth and end the friendship. It's not right to stay in that kind of friendship because it really ruins your teenage years. | |||
Bitmap #1 Enhancement Shaman US Ravenholdt  Since: 09-05-04 From: His Laughin' Place Since last post: 4557 days Last activity: 4550 days |
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| First of all, If you were dragged into the friendship due to the fact that you felt sorry for them, you can easily break that friendship the time it took for you to build it. If they are so smart, they can figure out why you left fucking left them, and you can move on with a stressless life.
Second, Dont worry about what they say behind your back, If you know the correct situation, why would you stress over it? If you are, then DONT! Finally, Go out on your own time and meet new friends, you dont need them, soon they are going to realise how much of a friend you were to them and come running back at you...You however can brush them off...And if they ask why, tell them "your smart, you figure it out" =/ Actually I wouldent do that...I would just brush them off like I've been doing |
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Trigger Happy Jones Since: 02-21-06 From: It's not hell... But it sure feels like it. *sweating* Since last post: 6699 days Last activity: 6699 days |
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| Brush them off, if they continue to bother you, then explain that ya'll are not compatible.
If they're persistent, try fucking up their meticulous schedule by not bringing anything next time you go to the park and destroy as much of the english language as possible.  |
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