Originally posted by Rogue

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You ARE NOT less than he is. Based on what you've written here, you are definitely not the lesser man here.

It's beautiful how you compliment her and want to be happy and I applaud your efforts to give her her space and time to think. Most people are impatient and end up harming the relationship trying to satisfy the needs as quickly as they can and end up losing the lovely things because they couldn't wait.

Honestly, she has to figure this out herself and eventually (though it unfortunately might be years later) she'll discover that you were the better choice. However, and I really don't understand why this happens, girls tend to flock to the guy who treats them poorly and takes them for granted.

Often it comes from the love for the bad boy or from some naive belief that they can change him and bring him to be a better person. All in all, the tragic truth is that nice guys finish last.

Love is a very tricky thing to give advice on, because people are constantly changing and there is usually no definite answer, so please take what I say with a few grains of salt.

It sounds like this ex of hers wants to have a pissing contest with you over her (revealing his naked male insecurities), when really this is her decision. She's a human being, not a piece of meat, not a prize to be fought over, and definitely not a member of someone's harem, as this guy seems to view her as.

All I can really say is that you tell her that you want her to be happy and that this is solely her decision. Her happiness makes your heart soar and so on. Just give her her space.

I truly hope she chooses you, but at the same time she might never make her decision. She might wait until something falls apart with one or the other and might be having an issue with having her cake and eating it too.

I'm sorry. As I said, there's no definite answer, but you seem to be doing fine on your own. Best of luck, Lintemacil.

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