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Katana

Dark Wizard
\"She said tonight...come on come on collide...see what I fire feels like..I bet its just like heaven.\"








Since: 08-15-04
From: Philadelphia, P.A.

Since last post: 159 days
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Posted on 03-09-05 04:29 PM Link | Quote
Um okay....I know there are a lot of people here who have qualms with their parents, which is exactly why I'm posting this. I am one of those people, and I ust want someone to identify with and to understand and who understands me...

Well...life between my mom and my dad completely blows. My mom and dad aren't together, they never were, just a few one-night stands is all, and voila! Me. But they're both ever present in my life...sounds good...right?

Wrong.

My mom was with another guy from the time I was an infant and off and on together until I was about 8. BUT he was stull there for me. He is, in every way my father. He passed away April 2nd, a month before I turned 12. I always get really upset as the date draws near, because my mom and dad make me upset. This time they're starting their shit early. He wrote me a letter before he died. I kept it and treasured it. My dad ripped the letter right in front of me. To shreads. I was so upset...I tried taping it. He tore it too small...So for the first time ever, I cried in front of my dad....he smiled...That's not even the half of it. It's just getting so overwhelming...I dunno...I just can't take it anymore. There's just so much going on....and most of it are things that happened during my life, but it feels like it's all building up now....

So that's the basic gist of it. I am well aware that I'm not the only one who has problems with their parents, so this isn't a woe is me ploy. I just want people to identify with.
Makura









Since: 01-22-05
From: The restaurant at the end of the universe....

Since last post: 4491 days
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Posted on 03-09-05 05:03 PM Link | Quote
I completely and fully understand what your going through, Raven. I know how it feels to have your past burden you in the present. It's tough and I know it may hurt a lot at times.

I have similar issues with my parents, rather than rant them in a post I'm just going to say this, if you ever need someone to talk to or if you ever feel like the only one out there, you can IM me anytime you want to talk.
Astrophel
Fear will kill your mind and steal your love as sure as anything;
Fear will rob you blind and make you numb to others suffering









Since: 10-03-04
From: Azul Lux Orbital, Kirin Beta

Since last post: 1084 days
Last activity: 432 days
Posted on 03-09-05 05:23 PM Link | Quote
Sheesh. Shit I hear here about parents makes my mother seem civilized and non-bitchy.

Honestly, Raven, your dad tearing the letter up in front of you and smiling about it... ugh, I think that deserves some sort of blunt weapon-assisted payback. But, then again, that's my answer for most things. Seriously, though, it might help you more to talk to someone in person about this. IMing people and posting can help, but I've found that - assuming you have a willing and understanding audience, of course - talking about it face to face is more effective. Of course, finding the willing and understanding audience is far harder offline than it is online.

And if that fails, there's always the blunt weapon idea. I'd cover for you, if I could.
Katana

Dark Wizard
\"She said tonight...come on come on collide...see what I fire feels like..I bet its just like heaven.\"








Since: 08-15-04
From: Philadelphia, P.A.

Since last post: 159 days
Last activity: 135 days
Posted on 03-09-05 05:50 PM Link | Quote
....It's harder than it sounds. Due to a few series of events occurring last night and all today, Talking to people in person...I dunno. Xeios and Jobes here are my RL friends, but they dunno that much and I dunno. And everyone else in RL...I'm blunt. I'm not one of those retarded teenage girls who expect people to read my mind. I'm blunt in saying that I need help and all that, and either they don't listen to me at all, or they baby me. I don't want to be babied and I don't want to be ignored. I did something that I literally kick myself for doing and it's like...ugh...I dunno. I just want the happy medium, which is help, rather than being treated like a baby or ignored completely. I normally don't post about private issues, and I know this isn't what this forum is for, like the whole venting and stuff, but this is kinda a last resort. Nothing else has been helping.

I've learned that knowing you're not alone and having someone to listen to, and listening in return helps. Even if I'm going through some issues, listening to people and helping them or at least trying to helps me a great deal as well. **sigh** I just don't know what to do.

**huggles** Thank you both though for your replies. And thank you for the offer Makura, I just may take you up on that.
Truth/Serum

Cheep-cheep
Continued Harassment.








Since: 03-07-05
From: In pieces

Since last post: 4888 days
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Posted on 03-09-05 08:58 PM Link | Quote
Goddamn girl.

You need to get someone to seriously help you out there.

If absolutely nothing else,
being babied is a far better alternative for this shit than simply taking all the punishment.

Tell people around you and get someone or all of them to help.
Belial

Bazu








Since: 01-29-05
From: New Zealand

Since last post: 2968 days
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Posted on 03-09-05 08:58 PM Link | Quote
I know all about parent issues.. My dad died when I was 16... which was after a horrible chain of events, lasting 3 or more years.

My mom is overprotective. I'm 17 and she never lets me do anything without her, and when I say to her that I would rather be with a friend, she's hurt. And in the same breath as protecting me, she is pretty much dropping me off the edge of a cliff as soon as I turn 18, by not helping me with ANYTHING.
Elara

Divine Mamkute
Dark Elf Goddess
Chaos Imp
Penguins Fan

Ms. Invisable








Since: 08-15-04
From: Ferelden

Since last post: 11 days
Last activity: 11 days
Posted on 03-09-05 11:00 PM Link | Quote
Well, Raven I will be bluntly honest with you... you need to tell someone about this and the other stuff that has been going on. Yes I know it's a tough thing to do, and I know that you're gonna have to talk fast to keep them from killing the bastard, but it has to be done. Restraining order, that is all I gotta say.

Other than that, I plan on going out there and castrating the piece of filth myself.
Kaijin Surohm
Living the dream








Since: 08-16-04

Since last post: 281 days
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Posted on 03-09-05 11:42 PM Link | Quote
Normally I'd just pass by this... but...

Drunkards can be complete assholes. They see nothing wrong in what they do, but they feel the pain of life. So they will drink untill they're in a stupor, and do whatever they please.

There is very little you can do for these people.

Personally, I'd say either A) Let Sean kick his ass, B) You Kick his Ass, C) Call the Cops D) Video tape the asshole in action.

Excpet that won't do anything. The guy dosn't like you, obviously, and he really shouldn't have a reason to. So the best you can do right now is just have him thrown away for the Mental Abuse that is his given you. Yea yea, I know he's your father, but is it really worth all this bullshit to just have a Father Figure around? I thought that's what Vin is there for.

I know you loved your Step Dad dearly, but to me, This asshole is not your father. Blood may say so, but Blood dosn't make you family. It's the bond. So right now, to me, Vin is close enough to basically be your Father right now.
Banned
Banned








Since: 08-17-04

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Posted on 03-10-05 10:33 AM Link | Quote
I hate this beast and have never even met him...

I'd go with Kaijin's words on this one... This .... .person.... is not your father, he doesn't deserve to be around anyone like you ... ... .... Yeah... I've nothing good to say on this subject... I couldn't ever understand enough to give good advice.
Katana

Dark Wizard
\"She said tonight...come on come on collide...see what I fire feels like..I bet its just like heaven.\"








Since: 08-15-04
From: Philadelphia, P.A.

Since last post: 159 days
Last activity: 135 days
Posted on 03-10-05 01:47 PM Link | Quote
I am getting help for it and something is going to be done. I gots family all over the CIA and FBI and I happen to be my uncle's baby...but he's throwing around his position to get my dad taken care of...I dunno if that's good or bad. **sigh**

Thank you all for your responses. I normally don't like posting stuff like this on the boards, but I just...I dunno....My judgement is getting so impaired right now that I'm literally like hanging on to every word of encouragement that I receive. Even hearing something good from people who hate me is very much apreciated because that just makes it all the mroe authentic.
Xeoman

Ball and Chain Trooper
Administrator








Since: 08-14-04
From: 255

Since last post: 6 days
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Posted on 03-10-05 02:19 PM Link | Quote
My parents just simply don't understand me, and think I'm wasting my life with computers, and videogames ... when these are the kind of people making, tons of money, and I've already taken advanced courses and classes. Even a Collage Course as a Junior (C++), and unlike BOTH my parents, I'm going to actually GO to College ... study, and become successful.

But with your issue Raven, that's just not right.

I'd like to point out a good thing though, that I'd personally say is good (also with my situation). You're 16. You're getting close to that age to where you can move out, and get away from these people.

But on top of that, seriously, talk with your other family members, who's to say you can't live with someone else?

My grandparents gave me the offer this past summer, when my parents nearly divorced. For awhile, I was living in a small house with my dad (which I'm still in), and an apartment with my mom for a bit ... well, things worked out I guess, but I still get pissed. We lost our nice house, and probably for the time being as long as I'm with them, I'll live in this peace of crap home because they simply "split" for a year ...

Seriously, it seemed like a complete waste. And throughout my entire life, I've been living with my parents struggling financially, since I first moved away from my grandparents when myself and my mom lived with them. (I have a birth dad, but I haven't seen him since I was 3 years old, so I guess I could really careless about him if he hasn't cared to ever send me anything of ... anything) ... so yeah, this all pushes me to become much better than what they've become, and so far I'm completely going for it, and a successful life and career ... and my family will be prosperous.

That, I have swore upon myself.

I will not continue to live like this.


(Last edited by The Xeogred on 03-10-05 05:21 PM)
Elara

Divine Mamkute
Dark Elf Goddess
Chaos Imp
Penguins Fan

Ms. Invisable








Since: 08-15-04
From: Ferelden

Since last post: 11 days
Last activity: 11 days
Posted on 03-10-05 03:33 PM Link | Quote
*huggles Katie*

I am glad to hear that you are doing something about it at least. I take it you finally told Vin?

Honey, all that matters is that you and the family members you care about are safe from that monster. You have grounds for a restraining order and you have had it for awhile, I say that you get one so he can't hurt you ever again. I'm not sure if you can include your siblings, but I think you can... or file ones for them too. That "man" does not deserve to be anywhere within a ten thousand mile radius of you. Kaijin is right, Vin is more your father than he is, just trust in him and those that love you (like us) and you'll get through this. Hopefully I can catch you online later so we can talk more about this.
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