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Since: 09-05-04
From: His Laughin' Place

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Posted on 05-11-12 10:56 PM Link
First and foremost. No Sex nor any hanky panky shit happened at all. Thank you.

So I met this girl about two weeks ago named Liz. She came by work and as I was taking her to her seat I noticed she was hard of hearing and just didnt say anything. But I know ASL and asked her "How she was doing" with my hands and immediately I got a response.

Well, that was cool and all. Was talking to her for awhile and told her some things about me, learned she had computer issues, she gave me her phone number, and I went to her house the next day to check it out.

Well, after getting the work done I learned she liked movies. We sat down and watched them, passing notes to each other and learning more about us.

Well, I invited her over to my house to watch movies on a better TV and what not. But in between we went out on 'dates' to kinda get to know each other more. And eventually we both really like each other.

Well, she ended up staying the night last night.

=/

It's kinda hard to explain. I'm not dissappointed that nothing -happened- or anything. But even though that it didn't; I still kinda feel like things might have been rushed. I mean, she came over with pajamas and everything. My first responce was me pointing to the bag and she kinda looked to the side and asked if she was able to sleep on the couch or something.

Well, I held my hands out and told her that if she felt like staying over then she could.

But...still....was this rushed?
Rogue
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Since: 08-17-04

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Posted on 05-12-12 12:53 AM Link
My first response was, "Awwwwwwww!!"

And honestly, I don't think it was rushed at all. It's cute. I'd say it was fast if she was naked in your bed right after you sat her for dinner and you were uttering some form of a proposal.

Let the chips fall where they may, but if you like this girl and want a relationship to form, don't be afraid to try to slow things down if it's too fast for you.

Still, fuckin' awwwwww, man.
Bitmap

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Since: 09-05-04
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Posted on 05-12-12 01:38 AM Link
ehhhhhhhh, it's not like I think you are imagining things rogue.

I mean, we kissed a few times. But we are more writing with each other than getting intimate. Hell it's new for me to have her talk to me using Microsoft Anne

But at the same time thats what is fun for me. I mean I can spell in Sign Language no problem, but when we are watching movies we either pass notes to each other *Cue pause* and then respond.

I just think that the whole sleeping with someone I like -albet no sex- to me was rushed for me. I mean, I slept with girls at the same time without the same deal. But we both really like each other. And we are dating, but just two weeks?

God damn. Shit got real for me.
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Since: 08-15-04
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Posted on 05-12-12 10:55 AM Link
If you think it was rushed, then it was rushed. If not, then it wasn't. You're an adult now. One good thing about that is at least we have a slightly better handle of who we are and what we want.

But you have to go with YOUR gut. Don't let someone push social convention upon you...but don't forget that "convention" is just that for a reason. If your gut tells you this is too fast and you don't like it, slow it down, like Rogue said. But don't ruin a nice thing for yourself either.

So what if you kissed her. That doesn't make your intentions lecherous, nor does it make this girl the "Whore of Babylon." Assuming that a kiss automatically means the relationship is going to lead to boyfriend/girlfriend status, then sex right away is something that should be left in high school.

And if you think her sleeping over was rushed, then let her know. Seriously. Because if this is something that is/could make you happy, then I hope it all works out. You deserve that man.
Bitmap

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Since: 09-05-04
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Posted on 05-12-12 11:19 PM Link
Well, I did not mind at all on having her stay the night. But I did feel a little weird that we slept together. But at the same time I kinda mentioned that to her and she just gave me the whole "OH by the way no glove no love" ordeal and we both kinda laughed. Hell, both of us just wanted to watch movies anyways.

I dunno, i'm a mixed bag on this. On one hand it was cool to have someone next to me while we both enjoyed our company, on another hand I didn't get laid, and on the final hand we have only been dating for three weeks now and I was not quite ready for that.

I'm having one of those looks right now where it looks like im thinking hard on the matter. But I guess I just need to relax even more and not think about rules of dating or whatever. I kinda feel like a hyprocryte on this because I remember when I met my first girlfriend (From the internet of all things) and I actually went out to see her. That same day I lost my virginity, we both slept on the same bed, and we were pretty much inseparable horn dogs.

But this time it's different. I have little desire to get in her pants. Sure. VERY sure. But this is the first time I have been on genuine dates with someone who shares stuff that is a lot in common with me. And hell, I'm actually having fun talking to her!

Also, I have not told my mom or some of my family about her. But dad and grandmother met her the night she spent the night (I remember dad was driving me up the fucking WALL with him coming up laughing about some joke he heard. Just to interupt us on James Bond movies). And the next day dad was really surprised that I would date someone who was deaf. "Not ordinary but at the same time very good on you" was what he said. Grandmother thought she was just shy (lol)
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Since: 08-15-04
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Posted on 05-13-12 09:32 AM Link
I think it's adorable, and good on you for not just rushing to the bed for non-sleep activities. Almost fairytale, really.

And if you want to slow things down, do it, since that is what works for you. Get to know each other, adjust to communicating with her hearing problems better and when you are ready, well, you already know her terms.
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Posted on 05-13-12 04:59 PM Link
Originally posted by Rogue
And honestly, I don't think it was rushed at all. It's cute. I'd say it was fast if she was naked in your bed right after you sat her for dinner and you were uttering some form of a proposal.

Believe it or not, I know a ton of people that have fallen into this template.

Two weeks, though? Nah, that's not bad at all. You know where your priorities lie, which is getting to know her better. That alone demands some serious respect from me, most guys completely skip that step.

Good on you, man. In my first relationship, we were sleeping together by week two... but we didn't have sex until month 7. Granted, we were virgins until then, but there's nothing wrong with waiting.
Bitmap

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Since: 09-05-04
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Posted on 05-24-12 03:53 AM Link
I don't know how to politely put this other than to say it bluntly.

Yes, we had sex.

I had a talk with her about a few days before we did this and she was kinda iffy on the subject.

Was this rushed? Absolutely not.

Close thread because I dunno how this could be discussed further.

As a final thought I will say that the only reason why I decided to go through with it was not through my natural intentions but because it just seemed right. We both kinda needed the connection and with the time we spent together we both thought it was time to share ourselves.

Again: Close thread. Hopefully we will be happy together!
Rogue
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Since: 08-17-04

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Posted on 05-24-12 04:11 AM Link
Very well.

But not before I post the requisite, inappropriate video hee-ya:


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