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| Jin Posts: 478/546 |
wow..
she's staying... im not sure, what.. bye.. |
| Bitmap Posts: 2517/7838 |
Just make sure you get your shit straight when you move out dude!
Its not easy moving out of a household im sure. I know this because this summer I have to move out on a career start program in Orlando FL working at Disney world...But the difference is that you need to MAKE SURE that wherever you are going to move at will be a place you know for a FACT that it will be sure to live in...Financialy sure, Safe, and where you want to be untill you make something of your life... Also, take everything you can now...Any money, insurance, Pulled-strings, anything that will help you move on with life. Because once you're by yourself, BAM! Thats when the Real World comes in... |
| Jin Posts: 476/546 |
Thanks Katana,
And I know exactly what you mean about the religion stuff.. it's just very frustrating. It's almost infuriating that he knows he has an 'ace in the hole' for when we get ready to leave.. he knows all he has to do is fake a few church visits and my life will be hell until I turn 18 and can move out.. I'm continuing to pack up my stuff and throw away my un-needed personal items reguardless of how things are going between them. Because come hell or high water I WILL be out of this house on August 3rd 2006.. My mom really doesn't want to listen to me I don't think.. It seems as if she's returning to not really giving much thought to how this is effecting me.. just like the past 11 years. :/ |
| Katana Posts: 975/3649 |
Originally posted by Jin I hear you on that one. I find typing to be VERY theraputic. The faster I type, the more aggression I can get off my chest..and then once in a while, I actually save/post or whatever, what I've typed. So...as long as it helps and you feel okay with us reading these things, then I encourage you to continue to do so. After reading what you've posted though, I'm glad your mother is divorcing him. I can't really give you advice from much experience because my mom and dad weren't together when I was born. My dad's a lot like your step-dad, but I never had to live with him day in and day out. However, as annoying as it may get...your mom believes that religious bull because it probably gives her a piece of mind. Having somethig to hold on to and hope for is probably what keeps her from falling apart. Grant it, that's not always a good thing, because sometimes it leaves you clinging onto a false hope...which in this case...if she really believes that he can make a complete turn around...I'm willing to bet that's a false hope. Possible, yes...it's something I myself would probably hold onto as long as I didn't have children. With kids it's different. It's hurting you. A lot. Sure, he could change someday, but not fast enough that you won't be hurt... I don't know you or your situation too well, so I appologize in advance if something I've said offended you. |
| Bitmap Posts: 2514/7838 |
Alcohol mixed with fathers is not exactly a great combination...
I hope by the divorce, it will take alot of stress from your life, When I would talk to you, I noticed you were having alot of bad days, and I hope that when this is all over it will be solved... I really dont know how else to reply to this but to give you moral support...You know where to find me if you need to talk to someone  |
| Makura Posts: 900/1555 |
I'm glad she's at least come to terms with divorcing him. Things will work out. You know that you can take care of yourself, and you're very intelligent. You'll find one way or another to cope with the situation. If you ever want to talk about anything. Feel free to drop me a line. If not, I completely understand. |
| Jin Posts: 473/546 |
As some of you know already, my step dad and mom are getting a divorce.. and really.. it's FOR THE BEST.. once it's over and done with it will be the best thing that has ever happened to me.. I'll be so so so happy just to be away from this harmful, depressing and utterly fucked situation which has plauged my life since I was 6 years old.
My step dad has always been a drunk and abusive asshole wether it be physically or mentally. All he ever does is yell and scream at people and causes a very hostile living enviroment. But getting there is going to be so hard.. he was gone to a fishing trip from Friday night until Monday night.. things were SO nice here during that time.. and I shit you not, within 20 minutes of his walking into the front door he started screaming at my mom about everything under the sun and it's just not right.. it's not right at all.. I don't know how I will survive the next couple of months at all, it's driving me insane. I find myself sick to my stomach every night from having to listen to them fight. I put my headphones on to try and drown them out but he's a yeller and I can still hear most of it.. it's almost made me hate some of my favorite songs because I can associate them with things he's said now. What gets me the most is how my mom might use this to further her religious bullshit.. don't get me wrong.. I love my mom more now than I think I ever have, which still isn't very much.. but I see now how a lot of the reasons I hate her aren't entirely her fault.. but she takes this religion shit way too far.. and I heard her say something along the lines of if he went to church with her he might be a better person and maybe someone worth staying with, which is so far from the truth it's not even funny.. he's an angry asshole. He's always been. He was this way with his first wife who died of cancer.. you'd think an experience would change the man? Nope.. He did the same thing with his first wife and real kids.. I mean, fuck.. It's been 11 years. I'll be damned if I'll be around for year 12. If my mom wants to put up with his abuse, she can. I'm almost ready to cut ties with her and save myself. I just can't tolerate it anymore.. It's too hard. As I'm sitting here typing this, I'm listening to Ben Folds and hearing his bullshit yelling as well and it's so frustrating.. I'll understand if nobody replies to this post, it's consistent and a general rant really.. but it's helped somewhat just to type it all out for once. |
