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Xeoman
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That's 2 for OkCupid.

Kansas loses again!
Katana
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Haha. He gets a pass. He's seen me in person. I look like a little girl.

But you're right Benja. There's also no point in bullshitting and hiding who you are. Like, sometimes being forward scares people. But as long as I'm not rude or an asshole about it, then all that really means is, they weren't for me anyway, so yay for finding shit out directly and from the get-go.
Benja
Posts: 550/551
Wow, that almost requires an apology on that one.......pretty harsh
FX
Posts: 3719/3775
Originally posted by Katana
And show me good guys out there my age, and I'm there. Lol.


I don't hang out with many 12-year-olds, but we'll figure something out.
Katana
Posts: 3543/3649
Originally posted by FX
Exactly. None of that, "Oh, hey, maybe we should hang out sometime. Oh, you're a cool person, I'd like to get to know you better. You wanna catch a movie sometime?"


People do that? Shit, I mean, I enjoy a movie and that will possibly be part of the suggestion (although I prefer situations where people can talk more when they're first meeting and shit.)....but...in person, I've kinda always did the "Oh hi. Gimme your phone. I'm putting my number in it and you're going to call me and we're going to go out somewhere, mkay?"

But...that scares people sometimes.

And show me good guys out there my age, and I'm there. Lol.
Benja
Posts: 548/551
There's no point in bullshitting and hiding whom you are. If you did then you'd just be lying to people and yourself!
FX
Posts: 3718/3775
Originally posted by Cteno
Originally posted by FX
When you meet someone in real life you sort of have to beat around the bush more. Maybe that's just me, though.

Actually, I think you completely nailed it. I'm the type of person who doesn't really mention his feelings about people, except for on the internet, and on OkCupid, I really felt as though I could really throw out who I am and what I was looking for. No point in hiding it if you're going to be looking for somebody to date, no?


Exactly. None of that, "Oh, hey, maybe we should hang out sometime. Oh, you're a cool person, I'd like to get to know you better. You wanna catch a movie sometime?" Just, "Hey, I'm looking for someone to date. Interested?"
Cteno
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Originally posted by FX
When you meet someone in real life you sort of have to beat around the bush more. Maybe that's just me, though.

Actually, I think you completely nailed it. I'm the type of person who doesn't really mention his feelings about people, except for on the internet, and on OkCupid, I really felt as though I could really throw out who I am and what I was looking for. No point in hiding it if you're going to be looking for somebody to date, no?
FX
Posts: 3716/3775
OkCupid. I really didn't care for any other sites I've tried.
Xeoman
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What site did you use?
FX
Posts: 3714/3775
I met my girlfriend online. I like how it's more to the point. Everyone knows why you're there. When you meet someone in real life you sort of have to beat around the bush more. Maybe that's just me, though.

And Kate, I know some good guys out here.
Katana
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You know, I've actually been tossing around the idea of giving one a try lately. More out of curiosity than anything...and I kinda realized that my world just got a lot smaller so to speak anyway, with the accessible and datable people (I'm surrounded by a lot of not so good people in this area) being people I've known my whole life...like, I shit you not, I was the only girl born among a bunch of dudes, counting my cousins and family's friends kids (which is basically my whole neighborhood. Well, other than the riffraff. But yeah.

**shrugs**

I don't look down on anyone for using it or for not wanting to use it. Like Benja said, whatever floats your goat. :p
Benja
Posts: 541/551
See, with all you hear about killings through meeting on the Internet, I know people are really sort of afraid to our themselves out there. While others thing it's just out of desperation. Though my opinion? Meh, whatever floats your goat
Xeoman
Posts: 10261/11751
I'll still randomly browse OkCupid at work on my phone once a month or something.

I have to say, it doesn't get more awkward than seeing someone you went to grade school with, and have bumped into since off and on, straight up asking for one night stands.

I know her first name, which is the start of her username, then it's her last name. And the pictures.

Awkward, but kind of depressing I guess since I somewhat know her... wow, lol.
Cteno
Posts: 3083/3409
I've had great success with OkCupid, but I guess it really just depends on your location. If nobody else around you is using it, there's really no point.

Might as well give geek2geek a try, I've heard good things about it.
Xeoman
Posts: 10184/11751
Yeah I'm just stuck at a wall here. With me having to dump money into health related stuff I'm not sure if I'll make it back to school this year, but sometime for sure. That'll be great for meeting people but other than that, yikes. I'll have to really branch out and maybe check out meetup's around here (been looking into that site off and on lately), or something. My friends at work do their own thing and my roommate is more solitary than I am. Only really have one circle of friends now and we rarely do anything.

Back to being pessimistic about all of this again I guess, lol, but I'll have to keep looking around for other sites and maybe try out the premium ones for awhile. Can't hurt. But yeah I obviously have almost no options at this point anyways. Unless maybe I just move away and meet up with online friends in person someday. Been craving a social life so bad for ages now, it's bad.
Rogue
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I think that's the site my friend used when he finally got a girlfriend after nearly a decade without. They've been together about 3 years now.
Xeoman
Posts: 10173/11751
Is geek2geek legit?

This chick at my work met her soul mate through some biker site, I mean, maybe one of these will work haha...

OkCupid sucks, I could completely careless about it at this point now.
Xeoman
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Well, I run down some searches on OkCupid across the US off and on, still nothing. I wonder if I can change it on POF to do that too? It's at the point where if I met someone online that's not too far, I would go out of my way to meet them in person. It would be pretty exciting.

But yeah back to square one anyways. I'm back on a 4/10's Mon-Thur schedule here and might look into part time jobs to keep me busy Friday, I'm definitely going to look around my community college. A coffee shop or something would be nice, just being around a lot of people my age probably, etc. Money isn't the issue, just finding a "fun" job on the side and meeting people would be the goal. Maybe you guys have some ideas? That or maybe I can start getting active around my school doing community stuff, no idea.

So yeah the issue is probably both me... AND KANSAS!!!
Rogue
Posts: 8967/11918
Originally posted by Cteno
I guess location is key -- probably not as many girls out in KS as there are here, unfortunately. At least not the cool girls.

God! Rub some salt in that wound, why don't ya?

I mean, yeah it's true, but we don't have to tell him that.

Look, Xeo, sometimes relationships sneak up on you and come around when you least suspect. It's great that you tried this out, though.

I really don't know what to say more than you should get out there more, be assertive when the time calls for it, but you know, play it cool.
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