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| Rogue Posts: 3386/11918 |
Sorry, Xeo, that I wasn't on to put my response to this up until now.
I'll pretty much be saying many of the same things that I said in this other thread. Men can be just as difficult, treacherous, and hard to understand as girls, so watch what you gentlemen say about us womenz. 
Short answer to this: Stay away from her. Often people who seem to desperately seek others' attention are trying to fill a void within themselves or their relationship that subconsciously hasn't been filled. The grass is always greener and all that. She's not happy, and her boyfriend seems to be very insecure with himself. I was once in a rather abusive relationship with someone who seemed to think I was always on the verge of cheating on him. He'd think I was smiling at other men, and if I even acknowledged one when they spoke to me, he'd flip out at them, and later, me. It got to the point that when we'd go out, I'd stare at the ground and avoid making contact with other people just to satisfy him. It got to the point that things were like this: He was hopelessly insecure, had issues with his mother. I was naive to think I could change him. Now, in terms of your girl, she's looking for an escape, a reason to leave whatever-his-name-is. You, Mr. Nice Guy Hopeless Romantic, come along and you treat her respectfully and you just might be the right guy she'd leave this other man for. He picks up on her subconscious cues of impending abandonment and comes after you, because after all she's just a piece of meat to fight over to this gorilla. Xeo, honey, avoid her for your sanity. She might be nice, but to her, you'd probably just be a rebound stepping stone between relationships. More so, she might be seeking you to make the ape jealous. Never know. I hate to say it. Nice guys finish last. |
| Xeios Posts: 2351/2954 |
Wimmen, dey ain't nuffin but trouble.
It's true, and especially women like that, who go off and flirt with others with no intent of seeing them. Or an original interest and intent to date that person, but whose boyfriend is controlling and she falls back in love with him when he says "I'm sorry for fucking other chicks, won't happen again. Promise." Girls sometimes man, they just don't fucking know anything. They don't know what they want, but they want you to want the same thing. It's retarted, and our minds just work differently. A guy can say "I like you" to a girl, no problem, even if he has a girlfriend. Girls will say "I like you" after much deliberation. And if they have a boyfriend, they'll say it so long as they don't think they'll get caught. Don't get roped in by their devious tricks. And honestly, unless it's going to be a good relationship, it's not worth the trouble. |
| Xeoman Posts: 6447/11757 |
Yeah, no messages or anything today. I'm a little surprised myself, but oh well.
Screw this. Sucks ass we work next door to each other. Chances are I'll see her, but I'm not giving her any attention. If she wants to talk she can come to me directly in person about it, otherwise I just don't care. |
| Elara Posts: 4458/9736 |
I gotta second Fennicy on this, especially the controlling bf part. Maybe she started this because she wants out, but it is highly doubtful that she would actually do anything to free herself and even then it would only cause problems. |
| Fennicy Posts: 25/546 |
Well I agree with Nagis when saying that you should ignore her. In my opinion when you next see and have to talk to her then just talk to her like you would as if nothing had happened. Girls that have controlling bf's aren't good to get mixed up with just because if she doesn't have the strength to make her own decisions then she won't have the strength to get out of a previous relationship.
I don't blame you for getting angry at her bf. He seems like he doesn't even trust that girl anyways. Keep your eyes open for girls that aren't looking, but don't have bf's either. I think that, that might lead to the best sort of strong relationships. If a girl keeps flirting with you, which means she's looking for something I guess, it's most likely that she's flirting with other guys too. |
| Bitmap Posts: 4511/7838 |
Welcome to the world of women Xeo.
Honestly, Ive been in your situation once. Maybe if I share my story, it might clear up a few things, and maybe help you out. Also, im on AIM, so Bros before Hoes dude. Alright so, about 4 years ago, I hung out with a girl, lets call her "Sally", she was dating one of my good Pump it up friends (arcade buddies), lets call him "Anthony". Well, one day, things werent going well between them I assumed, and Sally starting to talk to me more often. Things were going good, I kinda crushed on her for awhile, but at this time, I was at that phase in relationships where I was with a girl every month. Tori, Stephanie (Freaky whore), Coriee, back to Tori again, back to Stephanie again, and so on. Well, I was single, diddnt really feel like dating, when one day Sally calls me up asking to go out with me. Of course I said no, because I dont like, nor like seeing one of my friends date someone I used to date, and reversed. So for the sake of my friend Anthony, I diddnt go out with her. Well, we did continue to talk, but as things went by, Anthony started talking to me about how much Sally liked me, and asked if I was attracted to her. Of course I said no, but she was a good girl (at the time), so I pretty much pleaded the 5th the whole time to him. I diddnt want things to turn out bad, so I tried to avoid it as much as I can. All of it came to a crashing end when it suddendly became a Love Square, turned out that 2 people liked me, I diddnt like but one person (Not Sally) and Sally was dating two of the people involved in this whole mess. Eventually, I just dropped it, and walked off. What I would do in your situation is seriously ignore that girl Xeo, obviously shes not epic for you, and is causing you some major Social problems. When people start acting all hard on you just because you are seeing some chick, well fuck them, fuck the girl, because obviously if she let that guy into her life, she was obviously bad news from the fucking start. IM me man. Whenever you can, or want to talk to me (though we never do actually  ), please do so. Ive been just about everywhere in relationships. |
| Xeoman Posts: 6446/11757 |
So for the last week or so some of us at the Lube had this thing going for the girls across the street at Beauty Express. It was a fun joke, put my home phone up on the window and they giggled. Next day one of our coworkers gets to know them pretty well and introduces me. I talk, I leave. One of them asked for my number and from there it seemed cool. The next day I held off to see them for as long as I could because I was wreckless nerve, when I finally got over there it was just the other girl. She said the girl who showed interest in my waited off the clock and hour for me to go over there. Next day, I go over there and we all talk for about an hour and half or so. Pretty cool, next night we chatted online almost until the sun rose. Tonight, some of us got together and met at a Taco Bell.
Fast forward a few hours as I sit joyfully at my computer, I get a text message randomly out of NOWHERE that she's been with a guy for over a year. Yeah, I've only known her a week or so but you guys remember how pathetically unstable I am with these situations? I felt like someone jabbed a jagged dagger into my rusty heart. I calmy text a few times back as she does too, awkwardly, then out of nowhere I get one from her boyfriend whom apparently got her phone 'suggesting' I back away from her. So, I exploded. Sent some sarcasm back as he apparently controls her, I'd be pissed too if I were him, but why'd she have to drag me into this? A little while later she sends a few more texts back that seem more like her, but I still can't tell, and they still seem fucking blunt. "Just thought you should know". Okay, why did we even hang out tonight if this was apparently a ludicious idea? I tried keeping calm, tried requesting we still be friends. I don't know if that's possible and if it got through. A part of me wants to destroy him, it seems as if that's not really her and I want to help her. It seems like she could be in an unhealthy relationship of sorts. The other part of me says fuck this bullshit. She's apologizing? Then why act like that? I can't tell if I came on to her or if she did. She was the one that texted me first. She was the one that wanted me to go over to their store to chat. She wanted me to go out to eat with her friend and another guy. HER. I don't know, this is just a big fucking hilarious joke. Every single time I think I'm going somewhere with an actual relationship it becomes a pile of shit. I'm blowing up over something that happened over a WEEK. I ask WHY am I like this? I am an utterly hopeless romantic and I can't do a damn thing about it because that's just selfish me. I crave so much for a relationship and its just going nowhere. I've been like this since forever, before High School, and the more this continues and ages the more I long and impatiently wait. I have a feeling I will face more of this issue in the future/next coming days, unless this is the downright end of a short lived joke. Who knows, talk about stupdity. At least I'm not in a complete rage punching things or crying or anything. World/Life - The fucking longest running comedic series in existance. |
