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| Bitmap Posts: 4261/7838 |
Actually White, im glad she bumped it.
Mainly because I have a new update about this. The guy is ok, but it turns out that she dosent actually like him. (I think) Seems weird though, but funny because I accidently walked in on her one time while they were doing...stuff. But yesterday she told me that shes clueless about him, and in all honestly, she actually dosent seem alright with him. I thought they were doing great in my humble opinion. But hes all the time trying to impress her. And when he talks to me, its normally about booring subjects. My mom confuses me sometimes, but if they break up, nothing is gonna stir up with me. Souless as I may sound, I really wont care, so long as he dosent hurt her 
Which I doubt he will do, he couldent hurt a bee, and I kicked his ass at Arm Wrestling. |
| Xeios Posts: 2264/2954 |
Ohhh I think I smell a bump, ooooh I think I smell a bump-*strums guitar violently*
*passes down ye old mighty warning.* Don't do it again sista'! |
| z33r0 Posts: 20/29 |
I think it will just take time. My mom and dad split when I was a wee thing so My little brother and I have had a few expiriences with post-divorce parenting.
All of my moms boyfriends seemed to dislike children. it mystifies me to this day. My dad had one girlfriend who he was with for a very long time. He almost moved to the other end of the country with her. needless to say he didn't go. He's got a new girlfriend now who I was weird around at first but I got used to her. I think a lot of it is change beyond our control freaks us outso even though a person may be a fabulous human being we have problems trusting them because they can flip our lives sideways at the drop of a hat. after all, when a parent says "you're the most important thing in the world to me" they usually mean "you're the most important thing in the world to me second only to my personal happiness and future relationships." this new person holds a lot of sway with them. not only that but if they don't like you they won't bother considering your security when they use said sway to get your parent to do something. I have seen one too many of my friends shipped back to the other parents house when dad's/mom's new friend doesn't care for them. but most tend to worry a lot about pre-existing children and how their being arond affects the kid( s ) and this guy seems nice enough. just give it time, what else can you do? |
| Xeios Posts: 2143/2954 |
I know I know. It was more of a hypothetical thing, I doubt she'll move in, my dad's gross and should instantly repulse all females he's known for long enough for them to move in with him.  |
| Cairoi Posts: 2098/3807 |
Xeios, if you need a place, you always got here.
And yeah, you can understandbly feel weird about connecting about him, but if your mom and boyfriend are serious about it, you'll eventually get used to it. It's just one more thing in life you'll have passed. |
| Xeios Posts: 2130/2954 |
My mom is dating a guy too. But the real problem here is that my scumbag father is dating some chick, some super-christian chick. I'm worried for my life and physical being. I do not think I'll be able to live if she moves in. I'll move out, I don't care where, someone, shelter me.
Hold me. I'm scared. |
| Elara Posts: 4294/9736 |
It's natural for you to feel a little off about the guy, you did just meet him. I'm sure that talking to your mom and giving the guy some time to grow on you will work just fine. |
| Makura Posts: 1244/1555 |
I've come from a history of both of my parents dating. My parents were never married and they were never together after I was born. It's a new person for either of them at least every couple of years. I feel your pain, I really do.
Just tell your Mom how you feel don't let it get to the point where it seems ridiculous for waiting so long. |
| Bitmap Posts: 4070/7838 |
I guess its the fact that he has no children or something.
You see, my mom, for some reason, likes to show me off to her friends at work and stuff, mainly because she says I grew handsome when I came back from Florida (Plus other reasons, but blah ). So thats really why I met the guy in the first place was because im a huge trophy to my mom. And today, shes going to take me to the bank to help get me a bank account. *Mom's Boyfriend's Name here* is coming along with us to look things over to see if things are legit. I think the only thing I like about the guy so far is he likes Classic Rock like I do. Him and I also like the same Nascar Driver (Dale Earnheart Jr. FTW) |
| Katana Posts: 2050/3649 |
You and your mom should sit down and have a talk. Just you and her. You both may need to have a few conversations and then possibly have a sit down between the three of you. Communication is key. Without going into my life story here, I have three moms and three dads. There's the biological parents, then my dad was married twice, and while my mom didn't stay with George too long as his girlfriend, they stayed best friends and he stayed my dad. Now my mom is with my step-dad Dennis, who is my dad as well. I love them all (including the biological parents. My mom and I are close now and my dad has turned around A LOT)
So, talk to them. Get everything out on the table and make sure they know where you're coming from and try to understand where they're coming from. What's really cool is that you already pick out the good things about the man. Something might not seem right because you weren't expecting it. So if you get everything out and cleared up, you might end up being really happy.  It's okay to have more than one parent. It's actually pretty cool.
And Bel's story is great. Wouldn't it be nice if everything worked out like that? |
| Rauni Posts: 1276/1351 |
Same position, Nagis. Same position...
My mother and father had already be divorced for quite some time now and my dad already have a girlfriend. Of course, my mother, being a little *itchy she is, doesn't like my dad because she's picky about her guy. Anyway, sometime I get to see her from time to time, she used to be married but for some reasons, her husband "disappears" and left 1 son and 2 daughters behind. Since my dad's girlfriend have a close relationship with my dad, she often talk to me about stuff. Sometime, it is a little annoying how she's questioning me from time to time but I know that she was trying to gert on my best side so I don't bother with mixed feeling I have about her. However, when I learned of this, I somehow can't connect with my parent rather then my dad's girlfriend. But that's a different story and the thing is... You might feel awkward that this new person may change your life but you don't want your life to be changed. |
| Belial Posts: 307/647 |
Yeah. When I was away for college my mom came uo to visit me... and brought her new boyfriend. This was nearly 2 years after my dad died. It felt really weird at first... not that I'm racist, but he's hispanic, and that for me was kind of weird at first. Until I found out he doesn't even know Spanish. heh heh. It turned out he is such an awesome guy. He's got the biggest heart, he'll do anything for a person, even if it's out of his way. Now he's marrying my mom on the 21st. |
| Bitmap Posts: 4069/7838 |
She dosent seem like the type of person to date people. After the divorce between my parents, it just seemed odd that I found out that she is dating some guy.
Well, I met the guy not too long ago. He seems like a cool person, no kids, good personality, and really likes my mom. I just thought it seemed weird. He liked the fact that I work for Disney, and kinda made fun of me about it. Up untill I told him I was a boss of 16 Cast members in Frontierland
His job is a repairman in a bunch of hotels in Columbus Georgia, so he makes a good sum of money, and even helped my mom pay off a couple of bills that have been bothering her. I dont know, I just cant seem to "Connect" with the guy. Sure we *cough* did stuff, and hes even offered me to take me out someplace so we can bond, but I just kinda feel weird about it. Hes so "Cool" and persist about things, like when he would ask me a question, it would always end up in a nice, friendly debate, and in a friendly tone. But something just dosent set right with the guy. I respect him and all, but I dont want to even picture having a stepdad or something. I know I know, my mom has every right to date him, and im not at all going to stop her time from seeing him. But I just dont connect with him or something. Ever had something like this happen to you? |
