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z33r0

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Since: 04-07-06

Since last post: 5170 days
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Posted on 09-08-07 04:37 AM Link | Quote
My boyfriend is joining the navy.
He actually wanted to go to infantry but he figures if he goes there right away they'll just ship him off to Afghanistan.

I know absolutely nothing about the military.
He's leaving at the end of september and I still can't really believe he's going.
fifteen to eighteen weeks of training then a five year tour, three months of shore-leave for each year of the tour.

sixty months, minus fifteen.
I wont see him for.. 45 months?

fuck. we just got back together this past june and it's gone so unbelievably well, now that we finally get it right he's leaving, for a really, really, long time.

I try like hell not to think about it but it's always there kind of threatening me.
I know I've still got the better part of a month but it looms over the rest of the time, I can ignore it most of the time but I have this constant vague sense of dread.

has anyone else ever gone through something like this?
like I said I have no knowledge of how the military works and to be honest I'm scared and I'm not even the one going. I feel kind of abandoned.
Pockets

Werewolf
pockets








Since: 10-20-04

Since last post: 4852 days
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Posted on 09-08-07 09:18 AM Link | Quote
I don't have direct experience really, but I've had some friends deal with absences
like this in the past. It's hard, no question. But he's not abandoning you. It's a
career and growth type of decision.

I was in ROTC in Highschool and nearly went into the military myself. Didn't for
personal reasons. Been thinking the last couple days that it might be a good idea.
Shortest term possible, Army, school help... it might be a useful idea but also right
now I couldn't. I have too many responsibilities here at home to be able to leave
for any length of time, much less an extended stay.

The military can be very good for a person. Discipline, growth, maturity. All can
be a result of military service and all I can say is if you guys can weather the
separation he will be a better man, and a better boyfriend more likely than not
in the long run.

Best of luck to the both of you. Tell him not to break his master chiefs jaw with a
wrench like my buddy did. *smiles*
Truth/Serum

Cheep-cheep
Continued Harassment.








Since: 03-07-05
From: In pieces

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Posted on 09-08-07 10:13 PM Link | Quote
Feel free to ask me any questions you want about navy life okay?

I've been in for over 2 years now, and I've been around on this board since near it's very beginning (I still call it MoD)

But if you (or he for that matter) Have any questions at all about either bootcamp, navy life, etc, just ask me, and I can give you the straight shot on all of it.

What rate is he going in for? Or is he undesignated or what? It sounds like he's in an odd program. Most ships only go on massive deployments at most every other year. And you get 30 days of leave time a year anyhow. I'm sure it's not going to be that bad. You'll get to see him more often than you think. Unless something odd is going on with him and his particular job he's going in for.

Anyhow, I'll try to help the best I can. But I'm only going to be around for a week or three more, before I'm gone. But feel free to ask away. I'm here to help.

And he's not leaving you behind. I bet you he's doing this with both of your futures in mind. I know that's why I joined at first. And having you at home will make it much easier for him to get through everything, that's for sure. You're going to be the most valuable thing in his entire world while he goes through boot camp, thinking about you will get him through anything. I'm sure of that.

So don't feel too blue, okay? It won't be that bad. Not for you anyhow.


(Last edited by Truth/Serum on 09-09-07 01:13 AM)
Dirk Ralthar

Thief








Since: 07-18-06
From: Malthar

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Posted on 09-08-07 11:49 PM Link | Quote
My dad is in the Coast Guard (For those of you thinking "That's like being in the military right?", yes, it is), and I will be shipping out to Boot camp heere at the end of October. I don't know too much about the Navy, but I do know that what he is doing will be a good experience for him. I know that it will be as painful for him to leave you behind as it is for you to watch him go (I know this from personal experience). You need to trust in him, and trust that he will come back for you when he can. I wish that I could be more helpful, but I seem to be lacking better words of wisdom tonight. The best of luck to the both of you.
z33r0

Octorok








Since: 04-07-06

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Posted on 09-09-07 04:51 AM Link | Quote
aw, I wasn't actually expecting more than like one reply telling me this was in the wrong area. thanks you guys, every reply helps<3

also I am intrigued at the mention of this broken jaw story.
Fennicy

Fox of all Foxes








Since: 06-13-07
From: Washington

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Posted on 09-09-07 05:10 PM Link | Quote
Well I don't have much advice about this except to try to hold tight.

I don't know much about the military, but maybe he'll have some holidays where he can come back to visit or maybe you two can write to each other when possible.
天国JOE

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Since: 09-02-04
From: Destroy Tower

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Posted on 09-09-07 06:08 PM Link | Quote
He's going away to the navy? I had no idea.

All I know about the navy is that the people who join up usually do not regret it. It's a very long time to be away from someone, but sometimes you just gotta do what's best for yourself and your future, y'know? I'm guessing that's exactly what he's doing. He's not just abandoning you. ^^;

Daijobu da yo.
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