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Sex without love isn't a great thing but it's not a bad thing.

I've said before on this board that I look at sex as a very special thing between the people involved and no one elses business. It's also not something to be shared with just a random person like in a one night stand.

My ex however did teach me that it's not always about making love as opposed to sex. Sometimes just getting fucked or vice versa is a good thing too.

Anywho. back on track. I still don't get why sex seems to be as such a big deal as some guys seem to make it out to be. Sex is sex. If you're comfortable enough with the person and both are willing go ahead.

Don't go bragging about it or pestering your partner if that person isn't in the mood or isn't ready or whatever. Get a fucking grip.
Vel Belmont
Posts: 32/42
SEX? WHERE? YAY!

From the Satanic Point of View:
Sex is animosity. We are animals by nature, one way or another. We have that part of us where if its the physical, "I want you right here, right now!" Kinda thing, or the love thing: An honest night of love making to signify a marriage or an aniversary of sorts.

Right down to it: Sex is more or less a disease, some of us have it, others dont. (But wish they did). I have found to enjoy it greatly, however, its only been with 1 person. I am not so much into the sex/intercourse part of it, but more or less of the foreplay.

A satanic rule: If it makes you happy and it feels good, do it as often as you can. Usually people ask me. What does the world need?

The world would be a much better place if we had a world wide Orgy. And thats speaking the truth. People has such a euphoric reaction after sex, its mind numbing to think how the world would be.

Yes, thats the Satanists side of it. I am not the one who delves into Religion aspects of Sex, but hey...whatever floats your boat.

Me? Yes, I enjoy it...>.> I also enjoy cuddling, snuggling and the mindless hours of making out with the specific person. I am not really, THAT evil now, am I?
Makura
Posts: 437/1555
I personally think that I am very driven by it. It's not something that I'm proud of it just happens. I think it's a just a stage and I figure as long as I'm not shouting.."I'M HORNY!" to the entire world..I'll be okay.

Sex isn't a big deal. It's not a top priority in a relationship.
Darkness
Posts: 191/365
Originally posted by Shaddow Flight
Nerds seem nicer and more personality oriented than sexual, because we don't think about it, because we accept our inability to score.


Well said...I dont take it as an insult because it may very well be true...
Banned
Posts: 692/-3459
Hey, Darkness.... Not intending to insult... But I think another factor is that (like you, I'm guessing, XD) I don't really think I'd stand a chance at "doing her" or even getting that oppurtunity, and I just don't even think about it anymore...

Nerds seem nicer and more personality oriented than sexual, because we don't think about it, because we accept our inability to score.
Darkness
Posts: 187/365
I am a guy and I DO like girl's but for some reason I don't have "The Sex Drive" most guy's have because:

1. I rarely think about sex
2. When I see a hot girl I DO think see hot but don't have the urge to "DO her", I rather would just like to look.

(Sorry about me puting quotes on exerything but I'm sorta shy about this subject...)
Leon D. Sagara
Posts: 97/859
its a weakness issue, Weak and Simple mided men with no tact and dignity often resort to sexual intercorse to make up for their be-fallen pride as a man. That type of man is weak and foolish. Real men do not need such trivial things such as intercorse in order to prove them selves to.....themselves.

Thats my way of thinking abotu it
Katana
Posts: 430/3649
Hmmm....sex, in my opinion...is something that is completely natural and all. But I see it as something that has no gray area. It's either good or bad. Good when you're ready for it. And no, I don't mean "ready" as in only waiting for marriage...in my honest opinion, people don't make weddings on when they're ready for sex...you're either ready or you're not. I find it quite possible for someone to be totally ready before marriage, and then even after marriage, someone to be not so ready just yet. Being ready, I suppose, is not having any repercussions to think of. Meaning, what could be considered consequences, would be considered blessings.

**shrugs** I'm prolly not making any sense...and my opinions, and reasons to back up what I think don't end there...I could even go on to continue to back up what I've already stated. **shrugs** But I don't want to bore everybody.

Oh, and for the record, I can't help but like Cyro and Guardian Oni's opinions. Cyro admits that men want sex and stuff, but I've never had someone actually back that up...and even if his statement is proven wrong by anyone, I still think it's cool that he gave an intelligent explanation. 'Least I understand men a bit more. And what Oni said about bragging...I won't deny that I brag about good things.
True Flight
Posts: 796/5243
I for one am not sex driven.........

......

Ofcourse I'm probably still in the stages of going through life with out it til marriage. The thing is I'm afraid it'll be like a Hershey bar. Once you finish it you'll want another one, then another, then another, and then another. You see... I actually FEAR sex before marriage. It's a paranoia I deal with everyday.
GuardianOni
Posts: 139/472
I think that people brag about sex for different reasons.

Some guys will brag about it to prove their manhood, and role in society. Other simply because it was a good thing that happened. And most people brag about good things that happen to them.

The reason there is so much taboo, and stuff is because reproduction is so important, and is a basic thing for all creatures.

As for those who say nothing... We just don't feel like it. I for one am easily embarrassed about certain... things...
Benja
Posts: 147/551
Benja sees everyone looking at him

WHAT?! Oh come on now, benjas not really all about that.........sometimes.

Men usually are driven towards sex because around the teenage/early-middle adult years, their hormones cannot stop driving. They think sex is a way to really supress such a thing. Around their late 20's early 30's it starts to fade. Though many people consider sex as a way of proving themselves to each other for their love and that is not the right way to do things. It would be necessary to tell your mate if you have a problem with sex that other ways are possible of showing love with each other.
Elara
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Dude, someone's layout is seriously messed up.
Banned
Posts: 504/-3459
I for one am not sex driven at all... (I mean hell, I've never felt physically attracted to anybody... before really. But yeah...

So I was talking to a (now ex) friend of mine... a particularilly perveted person... So he was talking about how he wanted to "fuck this one girl" (whom he didn't know the name of) and how he was going to figure out a way to do so... *nod nod* so I asked him why he was so sex driven, compared him to a series of animals, and such...
"You only don't want sex 'cause you've never had it," he says
To which I respond, "Neither have you."

This conversation ends with him calling me a fag, then I realizing that the girl he was talking about was a friend of mine... and me smashing a chair over his head... but that's beside the point...

just thought I'd share that with you... fun story
天国JOE
Posts: 361/2999
Well, guys are pretty sex-driven. It's kinda our nature I guess. In the Animal Kingdom, the male goes around mating. He picks a mate, mates, then either stays, gets eaten, or goes away to mate with another female (lions do that). So that could answer for some of it. Butother than that, I dunno.

I wouldn't brag about the stuff. If they ask I may or may not answer truthfully but if they ask me to go in full detail, then no. This is WHEN I actually end up having the big s.e.x. Still a while away. Unless...something unexpected happens.
WhiteRose
Posts: 396/1461
I don't see sex as a big deal. Just like a lot of my friends, I see is as a natural part of being human. I may joke around and make it seem like I"m braggin, but I generally do that just to make my fiance blush, but actual bragging and having sex just so you can brag, I cannot tolerate. It's stupid, idiotic and pointless. I have no problem with sex before marriage. As long as you have something special with the person your doing it with, then it's fine.
Savedox
Posts: 59/1567
ill admit it im still a virgin but do i really care? no i dont! i know that i will find someone out there for me. and sex isnt the number 1 thing on my mind hasnt been and probobly wont be for a while. and i agree with "xenogod" that the us is like the only country that emphisizes on censorship. i know that japan dousnt really care about censorship. iv heard of some shows that would have to be ordered on teh playboy channel here in the us and then you go to japan and its on regular tv. everything is different in every country. i dont care about bragging rights or anything like that i just want to live a peacefull life.
Black Lord
Posts: 55/100
I don't have any regrets in doing it. Because I am in love with the girl I did it with. Now if it was just a spur of the moment, girl sees me and is attracted, I see girl and am attracted, and then we do it. Then I would have regrets.
Kaijin Surohm
Posts: 350/1852
Lol
Blame the US Censors.

American people have the tendancyto "protect" children from crap their going to see anyway. If the dumbass people would stop with the Censoring of harmless stuff, we wouldn't be so obsessed with it.

People are both afraid, and intreged with the Unknown. By making Sex censored on TV, and misc. other little things, it becomes Unknown the children. Thus, it makes them curious, and then they wanna jump right into it.

Take a look at other countries compaired to ours. We are the most sex crazed out there... Why? Because we're the only country that emphisizes on Censoring. (As far as I'v been informed, anyway.)

Thus my hypothosis: If we make Sex an every day, no big deal thing, will we continue horning in on it (We being Men.)?

Just like when a Parent tells a child "No" to something, it makes the child WANT to do whatever they were told no over.
Cyro Xero
Posts: 597/1778
See that's another thing. Some people say it's not all that great to have sex when you're not married. But, not that those same people are being hypocrites, they still have the urge to do so.

Congrats (I guess) BL. Do you regret doing it at all? I lost mine about sometime around the end of May of this year. 24 year streak of nothing. I'm with a girl right now and we've had sex a few times. However, unlike a lot people who preach about waiting, I don't really feel bad about it. I'm a Christian and go to church sometimes, but I don't really regret this. As long as I'm being with the person for a long time then I don't think it'll matter to me. If it was something to the extent of a 1-hour stand, and I never got to know the girl at all then I might have certain feelings about it.

I believe that as long you love somebody, and not just like them, then it's okay.
Black Lord
Posts: 54/100
Well I just lost my virginity 2 days ago.

And honestly I don't think I'm gonna talk to anybody else about it other then my significant other. I have no need to brag. We did it because we both feel we truly love eachother and honestly I wasn't looking to get laid, yes I had the condoms, but the only reason I had them was because I wanted to be safe if something would of come up, and if I didn't have any protection then I would of been in some deep shit.

And truthfully, sex without love, is just a waste, completely.
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